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explaining venus

where do i begin? hmm...let's see, over a month ago, i was catching up with a close guy friend. boggled by the female ways, he decided to ask questions about the female psyche. obviously, answers to questions on situations will all be hypothetical unless the whole situation was followed or studied in detail. I asked my friend to share the whole story since I had enough time to study the details. the whole story is very long, since it was relayed in detail...so here's my version of 'explaining venus to mars'

situation:
he likes this girl (a lot). he has been doing everything for her but she's been unresponsive to his actions. he didn't know if he was being led on or if she liked him. he asked her friends what his true standing is and she was open to them about her feeling towards my friend-she liked him, a lot. the question of my friend is if she really liked him how come she's not responding to his actions.

my question:
did you actually tell her what your intentions are? did you drop an obvious hint that you want to be more than friends? does she know that you are not like that with every other close girl friend you have?

his answer:
'no' to all

my analysis:
note: i shared with him my own situations to be able to explain my answer.
basically, i told him that girls nowadays don't want to be assuming. we're very careful to whom we'd have deep feelings for. we don't want to read into the actions of guys too much because they'd have their own set of explanations to their actions. it would be disappointing if their explanation would be far from ones expectation or assumption.

I said that guys and girls like to 'test the waters'-side note: guys do that more often than girls. as i was saying, we test the waters before we make a conclusion. then again (unless one is really an assuming person) the conclusion will remain a hypothesis unless it has been proven to be true based on several accounts. oh goodness, first i explain relationships through mathematical equations now through solving experiments!

Moving on, after sharing to my friend my own set of stories he said that i give guys a hard time.
mass/volume = density
interesting analysis but i still insist that i am not dense. i just don't want to read into actions too much (or should i say anymore?). I'm not dense I'm just not 'an assuming person.' look, everyday we solve problems, sometimes we are not aware of the problems we unconsciously solve. in an hour we are required to make so many decisions. by the end of the day, our mind is tired. even if we just stayed on our desks the majority of the day, we become tired-i'm talking physically drained, not only mentally. why? go figure! i don't have to explain that anymore. at the end of the day, it's one thing to look back at the events of the day and replay it in your head and it's another to think things over and over and over. if you'd have to analyze every single situation you've encountered during your day, the 7hours you alot for sleep will not be enough. so, why complicate things right? take things as they are. if it's not that important then don't make unwanted stress eat up the remaining energy you have. if you allow that to happen, you'll run on empty and turn catatonic-okay exag but you get it right? sure i am guilty of the same crimes of every other person who thinks too much but see if your mind is strong enough to solve all those 'daily' problems and can make you act upon situations, then it should be strong enough to allow your mind to just stop and rest. besides, studies show that one can practice the whole day and still won't be able to perfect what he's studying unless one rests. during rest, his mind (at the unconscious state) will replay the events of the day and continue learning...hence you are still studying but in a more relaxed manner. ever try to solve a problem to a situation and not being able to find the answer? then you decide to sleep and when you wake-up you know exactly what to do? well, there.

umm...yeah i strayed from the topic but it's informative right? i could explain more but i won't...well, not now! hehehe

ok, back to the topic. i am not dense. i just don't want to be bothered with thoughts that may give me unwanted mental, emotional, or physical stress. umm...ok...there are some things or situations that i would say can inevitably give me that amount of stress and will either make me temporarily narcoleptic (literally passing out to sleep just by the thought of it) or make me extremely compulsive (move, move, move)-most of the time compulsive with work or cleaning. :) see here's the thing, the ones that may cause me that type of stress from over thinking would be the things that are very important to me. things that i am most passionate about or take extra care of.

there, i have explained myself.

back to the story:
i explained to my friend that i can compliment a person and notice details but it's basically my way of making a person aware of the nice features he or she may have. i may go out of my way to do things for other people but i doubt i'd give a person a hard time by giving them reasons to make them read into my actions. yes, actions speaks louder than words but again what if a person is naturally nice? more often than not, i would explain myself. if i don't well, they shouldn't read into my actions too much. ask if they must, i will answer without holding back on information (like if my feelings are deeper BUT again it is safe not to 'assume.' consult, ask, but it's best not to assume. when you assume, you hope, sometimes when you hope, you expect. so, just take things as they are and wait for affirmation. if direct affirmation doesn't come your way, there is always the 'lab report' style. hehehe

my friend and i were both sort of enlightened by the explanations we gave each other. we ended the conversation by sun up. both thankful, we learned to be more understanding to the opposite sex.

After resuming my daily routine, i checked my phone and received a text message from him
text :
DBD don't be dense

i laughed because i knew what he was referring to. maybe i learned to be less dense after that conversation.

my reply:
MAM make a move

i know it made him laugh and somewhat inspired to explain himself to that girl he liked. what happens to them next...well, we just have to wait and see.

from the musical 'avenue q'
'A mix tape. He made a mix tape. He was thinking of me, which shows he cares! Sometimes when someone has a crush on you they'll make you a mix tape, to give you a clue.'
- 'mix tape' sang by kate monster

---> cute right? in my case, i'd give someone a mix of the songs i like, not because i am trying to say something, more of, i am sharing what i like.

hmm...but when we share something important to us, with someone else, we share a bit of ourselves to that person.

question:
why would we share something important to us to someone who isn't equally important or dear to us? :)
- i know i won't! :)
then again, there is also a difference between saying...um wait, i'll end this here! i'll save that thought for another post. information overload!

laterz!

posted by yma @ 19:14